I cannot resist writing about college conduct policies, specifically what constitutes consent in sexual relations. While at some point in the future, I might very much like to write a piece where I compare various college "consent policies," today I will write what I know. My own college policy reads as follows:
I have highlighted what I think are two very important aspects of this policy, and why our college policy ends up failing to truly protect our campus from rape. First of all, the behavior included in the definition of sexual misconduct (which is, btw, our college's clever way of renaming sexual assualt or rape)--physical contact of a lewd type such as brushing, touching, grabbing, pinching, patting, hugging, and kissing--is behavior that is quite typical and normal in most sexual relationships. The phrase however includes the word "lewd," which is purposely ambiguous. It allows the jury to not find a student guilty of sexual misconduct if they believe that he or she was not lewdly doing these behaviors. And yet, it's not clear what counts as lewd kissing or lewd touching? What special extra behavior or words need to be present in order to demonstrate that someone was not being lewd or that someone was being lewd when kissing another student.
For example, let's say that a very well brought up, gentlemanly student--let's call him Kurt-- has been dating his girlfriend for three months. So far their dates have consisted of hand holding (without getting verbal consent, btw), going out to campus events together, and attending a formal. Our couple has not yet kissed, slept in the same bed, or engaged in any "petting." One night after the formal, Kurt is walking his girlfriend--Lana--back to her dorm room, and Lana grabs Kurt behind the neck, draws him closer to her, and begins to kiss him like he has never been kissed. Before he knows it, Lana has put her tongue in Kurt's mouth and he is shocked by how forward and lewd this behavior is. Kurt has every right to file charges against Lana for sexual misconduct in this case. What the jury will have to decide is if Lana was being lewd or not.
Now for another example: let's say that Sally--a self-possessed, friendly, trickster--walks by Sam, a boy on her floor, who has just left the shower and is wearing nothing but a towel. She runs up behind Sam and pinches his bare bottom. Sally has just violated Sam for this lewd pinching, right?
I chose these two innocuous examples to get at what is problematic about a conduct code like this, why I think such a code is a betrayal of feminism, and then I will explain how a college like mine actually uses this code.
What is Problematic About this Code
First of all, this code allows the campus to suspend students for the behaviors that I listed above. Each of the scenarios I illustrated is an instance of not getting verbal consent, and thereby the student should be found responsible for sexual misconduct. If and when such a student is found responsible, the charge will be placed on his or her record and must be disclosed to many post-graduate jobs, graduate schools, or fellowships, like the Peace Corps. Perhaps, what is more upsetting, however, is that when a student rapes another student, he (or she?) is found responsible of sexual misconduct, the same charge that would be applied to the two other cases above. Sure, rape might be the fourth level of sexual misconduct, but the sentencing seems to be the same for levels 1-4.
The students are taught this code the first week of new orientation. We break men and women up into two different groups and go over the code. Each time I have participated in this, students have peppered me with lots of questions, in particular, the women have pointed out that the examples taught of sexual misconduct are always men preying on drunk women. And, they wonder if this code puts the onus on the boy to get verbal consent rather than the woman. I have never had a satisfactory answer to this. The last two levels of sexual misconduct--(3) physical contact of a sexual nature that results in reasonable apprehension of a sexual assault or physical harm and (4) coerced sexual activities, including rape--have often struck many of the young women students that I am educating as likely to find only men guilty of sexual misconduct rather than women. I wasn't sure I necessarily agreed, until I sat through my own Student Conduct Review Board (SCRB) hearing. During that hearing, where two students, who had been dating, engaging in regular sexual activity (except intercourse), the female student was in no way found responsible for violating the sexual misconduct policy, even though she admitted to initiating much of the activity, nor had she gotten his verbal consent at any point of the sexual experience.
This Code is a Betrayal of Feminism
What I find insulting about this conduct code, and the way that the SCRB board enforces it, is that it suggests that women are helpless, passive, sexual victims. First of all, many of the behaviors that constitute "sexual misconduct" are so ambiguous as to make a mockery of the seriousness of sexual assualt. This code threatens to teach women to adopt a rather puritan, Victorian view of their sexuality, rather than embolden them to embrace and own their sexuality. If you don't want a boy to kiss you, then tell him to stop and walk away. Women are perfectly capable of setting boundaries of what is acceptable sexual behavior and speaking up when they don't want to do something. Women are, afterall, moral agents aren't they? Do we want to assume that anyone who makes a pass is violating something sacred? Good lord, do we want to perpetuate that sort of view of our personhood?
These policies are deeply protectionist in nature; it regulates all sexual action because it assumes--IMHO--that male sexuality on college campuses is predatory and women are at great risk the minute they get here. The justification for such a protectionist conduct code is because you have a great deal of problems with rape and sexual assualt on campus. That is absolutely true. But, this code doesn't really get to the heart of the culture that leads to higher instances of rape and sexual assault. The women who are raped at a fraternity party are not going to go forward to College Life and then face the man (men) who assaulted her in a kangaroo court, where the social consequences of outing the rapists are massive. Women who are raped generally never go forward and report what happened, especially on a college campus where their friends might side with the rapist to maintain good relations with his fraternity. These women rarely get a rape kit, or press charges with the local police. Many of the female students who are raped or assaulted on my campus are, oddly, not even sure if they were assualted or victimized, because after all they were drunk, dressed sexy, and at a party. (See the Happy Feminist on this issue.) This code is far more likely to produce false positives, especially since no real investigation takes place.
I used to get annoyed by male students who would tell me that their deepest fear is to be falsely accused of rape. I would point out to them, over and over again, how rarely women who were raped go forward. I pointed out how horrific rape cases are for victims. And all of that is true. But, then I saw first hand my first false accusation case. And, I learned exactly why men are terrified by false accusations. I don't think that they occur alot. Nor, do I think that this problem is more pressing than actual rapes (don't put me PLEASE in the MRA camp!). But, it is a fact that we have created college policies and employment policies that make it easy to get an accused off campus or off the work premises without any real investigation. Once a student is accused, his reputation is forever ruined; there is no innocence until proven guilty. While the credibility of rape victims continues to be a serious issue (i.e. Duke case), our policies to give more credibility to women victims has made the mistake of leading to a great deal of false accusations.
I would applaud a serious effort on the part of my college to challenge the institutions--sports teams and fraternities--wherein sexual assualt of women seems like a rite of passage, but the fact is that the college, deep down doesn't really want to do that. Why?
If we want to take rape and sexual assualt seriously on campus, then we need to convict rapists, we need to vigorously challenge sexist practices--which are often part of sports team or fraternity hazing. If we establish a kangaroo court to get men falsely accused of rape off campus ASAP, without really investigating what happened, then we are making a mockery of any rape trial. You don't correct the past sins of not believing rape victims by wholly believing any claim that any woman makes against a man on campus.
How the College Misuses the Policy
All colleges are required to report the number of rapes, assaults, and thefts that occur on a campus. This information has to be made available to prospective students and their parents. And, no college wants to report the real number of rapes and assualt that takes place. The conduct code in place allows them to rename what happened as sexual misconduct. This prevents the charge from being an actual felony or crime according to the PA code. The conduct code also makes it easy to get any student who has been accused of rape off campus immediately, in order to protect the college from any liability. So, the code is not designed to really punish students and send a serious a message that rape and sexual assualt is not tolerated. It is a code designed to make it easier for the college to CYA.
There are no due process protections in place in this system. The hearing board is comprised of people hand picked by the same office that writes and enforces the code. Moreover, whether a student has actually raped another student or has just failed to get verbal consent before kissing his girlfriend, the student gets to return after having been dismissed for a semester. If the student actually raped another student, the college doesn't call it a rape, because to do so would mean they would have to disclose this statistic and hence bad P.R.
I am even cynical enough to believe--how sad is this--that the college is happy to take cases where it is clear that the young man did not rape the student, because they know the local borough won't press charges, hence this case will never make headlines. They get the male student off campus quietly, satisfying the parents, and prevent a P.R. headache that might deter future students from attending the college.
This post is part of my rethinking feminism series, because it highlights to me the ways in which institutions adopted what seemed to be "feminist friendly" policies, but only to serve their self-interest and not to actually prevent rape or sexual assault. My college has instituted an incredibly protectionist policy, that most conservatives would lambaste as the legacy of the P.C. era, but I believe there is something far more nefarious afoot. While the subtext of this college policy does suggest a 2nd wave view of woman's sexuality as passive and helpless to men's predatory sexual behavior, that is not the real problem with the code (although I do find it insulting). The real problem is that the college adopted this "feminist friendly" code, ultimately, to keep its rape statistics low and to protect itself from liability--either angry parents or the federal government. This policy does nothing to create a campus that is more respectful of women, nor does it promote healthy self-image or sexual behavior.
While conservatives love to point to codes like this as the fascist excesses of the femi-nazis, I think these codes work against the important democratic principle of transparency. The real problem is that we allow college campuses to ignore due process protections in order to improve their "image." And, the college doesn't actually want to take on the fraternities or sports teams, since it is precisely these college institutions that attract so many men--willing to pay high tuition costs--to a liberal arts college. We need these men, and so we aren't going to reform these institutions in a way that will turn away potential applicants to the college.
So, to you conservatives out there reading this: you should be offended by these policies because, frankly, they aren't fair. To feminists, you should be pissed off because they aren't really in place to make your campus safer.
Cross-posted at The Reaction.