I tend not to look at the statistics that national organizations have to offer regarding violence against women, however, I am writing a grant proposal for The Clothesline Project and needed some mathematical data. I wish that I could use personal testimony, for I think that it would better articulate the need for such a program for the young girls whom I work with. However, I’ve found that those willing to give the big bucks are sadly uninterested in hearing a 10 year olds story of incest, or for that matter my narratives of mothers who have come in with gruesome stories of how their boyfriends raped their toddlers.
It’s frustrating….Is it because these stories scare people? Is it because we are more comfortable assigning a number to the issue of domestic violence as opposed to a face, or rather, many faces?
I don’t think that we’ll ever be able to make a dent in addressing the issue of violence against women until we are willing to make people uncomfortable, until we’re willing to replace the unknown integers with real stories. I feel like I’m selling out by not putting such stories in my proposal, but that I’ll be letting my patients down if I don’t “play by the rules,” put in the political minus the personal, and gain the funding that will keep my struggling program alive. So, what’s a girl to do?
Here is one of the more interesting reports that I found this week while researching….. it's courtesy of Amnesty International and is quite alarming (note: all of the bold is my emphasis).
A new ICM opinion poll commissioned by Amnesty International indicates that a third (34%) of people in the UK believe that a woman is partially or totally responsible for being raped if she has behaved in a flirtatious manner.
The poll, ‘Sexual Assault Research’, published today (21 November) as part of Amnesty International’s ‘Stop Violence Against Women’ campaign, shows that similar “blame culture” attitudes exist over clothing, drinking, perceived promiscuity, personal safety and whether a woman has clearly said “no” to the man.
For instance, more than a quarter (26%) of those asked said that they thought a women was partially or totally responsible for being raped if she was wearing sexy or revealing clothing, and more than one in five (22%) held the same view if a woman had had many sexual partners.
Around one in 12 people (8%) believed that a woman was totally responsible for being raped if she’d had many sexual partners.
Similarly, more than a quarter of people (30%) said that a woman was partially or totally responsible for being raped if she was drunk, and more than a third (37%) held the same view if the woman had failed to clearly say “no” to the man.
Changes in the law relating to consent mean that an alleged rapist must show that they had taken reasonable steps to ensure that the other person had consented to sex. In this respect the poll exposes a gap between the law and public attitudes.
Amnesty International UK Kate Allen said: “This poll shows that a disturbingly large proportion of the public blame women themselves for being raped.
“It is shocking that so many people will lay the blame for being raped at the feet of women themselves and the government must launch a new drive to counteract this sexist ‘blame culture’.”
The poll also shows that the vast majority of the British population has no idea how many women are raped every year in the UK, with 96% of those polled saying they either didn’t know the true extent of rape or that they thought it was far lower than the true figure.
Only 4% of respondents even thought the number of women raped exceeds 10,000 per year when the true figure is likely to be well in excess of 50,000:
• Six out of seven people either said they didn’t know that only 5.6% of rapes reported to the police currently result in conviction or believed the conviction rate to be far higher.
• The average estimate was of a 26% conviction rate, nearly fives times higher than the actual rate.
Kate Allen added:
“In addition to uncovering disturbing attitudes over women being ‘to blame’, this poll also reveals the scale of public ignorance of the unacceptably high numbers of women raped every year in the UK as well as the dreadfully low conviction rates.
“The government has an international duty to prevent this gross human rights violation yet it’s clear that the government’s policies on tackling rape are failing and failing badly.
“These findings should act as a wake-up call to the government to urgently tackle the triple problem of the high incidence of rape, low conviction rates and a sexist blame culture.”
South Essex Rape and Incest Crisis Centre (SERICC) Director Sheila Coates said:
“This poll shows that people don’t realise how common rape actually is and that there’s little understanding of how many people rape crisis groups actually support.
“Groups like ours are picking up an ever increasing number of helpline calls and waiting lists are growing. The situation for rape victims and women’s specialist sexual violence services are at critical.
“Those needing counselling face waiting lists of up to one year and this can only get worse as more rape crisis groups close or cut back services due to a lack of funding and government support. This situation has forced victims into a post code lottery when trying to find support.”